Finding Motivation-and Keeping It

The most important thing I recently realized is that motivation is not the same as perseverance. Motivation is the kick of excitement and inspiration that propels us towards our goals, and perseverance is our ability to continue to work towards them, even after all of the fun, excitement and pride from starting something new has faded. Perseverance comes from the inside, whatever drives us towards the unique achievements we dream about. Motivation comes from the outside; people who are doing great things that we believe in, and images or videos that make us want to create and experience new things. I, like a good amount of people, tend to respond very positively to motivation, but have trouble persevering when I have a lack of motivation. The hardest part of achieving things is staying on task and maintaining our resolve; think of all the things we could do if we never got bored!

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I wanted to figure out how I could keep my goals up front in my daily life, basically I needed more motivation to continue perseverance. I looked at what I have been most drawn to lately, and of course my journal full of quotes was an obvious clue. I decided to make an inspiration wall in my sewing room, right above the sewing machine so I would be looking at it everyday. I’ve collected 20 or so quotes that are powerful to me, and have printed them out on cardstock to hang. Because I am on a budget, and also because I didn’t want to assign myself more work by going out to buy all the frames and hang them, I decided to tape them up. I will post pictures as soon as I have them up, but in the meanwhile look at the pictures that inspired me! I’m hoping this will be a fun, low maintenance solution to adding more motivation to my life.

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Finding Motivation-and Keeping It

GamePlan

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I had a kind of epiphany a couple months ago about my life, and life in general. I was sitting on the couch browsing Pinterest and hanging out after finishing work when I realized how fast time had been passing after graduating college last year. I then made a mental list of everything I had achieved in the last season and realized that although I had been doing a lot of fun things with friends and taken some exciting trips, I hadn’t done a lot that was propelling me forward personally or professionally. Each day I was simultaneously happy during my day to day social life, but deeply unhappy with the overall direction of my life. And I didn’t even realize it until that moment.

Laura and I had this one conversation a long time ago that probably stemmed from a moment of extreme exhaustion during finals about what we really wanted for ourselves in the future. We talked about living a “big” life, and something about this phrase carved a place in my heart and has never really left me. There it was- my unspoken truth, the part of me that realized that my ambition and goals weren’t only about having a good career, but were also about always striving for more from myself. Living a big life is about living where you steadfastly go after your dreams, want more than what is familiar, and are constantly “growing” as a person. The terrifying thing about becoming an adult is that when I look closely at the people in my life who are now my peers, I feel like a lot of them have settled for small. They settled in jobs that don’t make them happy, or they were too afraid to move to a new place, or they have simply stopped looking for new passions. Living a small life was my equivalent of going home after work and Pinteresting until I got bored and it was time to go to sleep. I had talked a year before with Laura about keeping my passion for life, and yet here I was on autopilot slipping into a very small way of living. So I decided to do something about it, and this is what I did.photo 4-5

First I bought a journal. If you have never visited the journal wall of Barnes and Noble, you should go right now. There are so many of the most beautiful leather journals on that wall I spent probably 45 minutes looking through to pick the perfect one. I even shamelessly asked a random tall man to help me get a couple down from the top shelf so I could see every option. That was actually very embarrassing, but I haven’t seen him again so oh well haha. I settled on a beautiful black leather one that I divided into three sections: The first section is for writing down the things I am grateful for, and the things that happen daily that make me smile. I also try to write down one random act of kindness everyday. This was actually such a great thing to do, because it made me do things that I wouldn’t normally do. If I didn’t have anything to write down already, I would go do the dishes before someone else got to them, or I would grab a pack of friends favorite pack of gum when I was checking out at the store, or I would call someone I was thinking about that I hadn’t talked to in a while. Really anything counts and I’m such a space cadet I probably wouldn’t have even thought of doing those things before. The second section is where I write down all the quotes that inspire me. I took them from books that I read, Pinterest, or things people have said to me that really stuck. Sometimes I know right away I need to put them in my journal, but other times they end up being things that I’m still thinking about as I go to bed at night. This section is so great because I find myself referencing them when I’m in a bad mood, need patience, or just need a little bit of inspiration to get off my butt and do something. The third section I reserved for fun. It can be lists of books that I’ve loved or want to read, projects that I really want to start, fashion trends I like, or healthy recipes or exercises I want to try. The third section is what I envision writing a lot of on this blog actually. 

photo 3-7The journal was a huge step towards getting my priorities straight, and being more mindful of how I was acting and how I was spending my time. It is also where I’m starting to write about what I want to achieve, and then draw out a game plan of how I’m going to get there. You guys, it’s going to be awesome.

Do you have any advise for keeping a journal, or is this something you would want to try? 

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GamePlan

New Beginnings

So Laura and I took some time off from the blog to reevaluate what we really wanted to do with the space. I don’t want to speak for Laura, but for me before it was seeming like such a challenge to post enough interesting fashion content. After evaluating the blog and myself I realized that maybe my original struggle was due to the fact that I wasn’t blogging about my entire heart. Fashion and beauty take up such a large part of my life, but then I remember all the other things that make me me, and all the other interests I have that bring me joy. Particularly now in my 20’s when I’m trying to set a course for myself and establish who I want to be, I feel like this blog could be a cool place and tool to establish goals and also contribute to dreaming. I also had this small thought that maybe other people were going through the same things, and we could help push each other to live the lives we dream.

So here goes nothing, a blog 2.0 with not only fashion and beauty and fun, but also maybe a little bit of bravery in revealing the hopes that keep us up at night and keep our mornings moving forward.

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New Beginnings

Date Ideas for December?

Hi friends! Hope you’re enjoying the holiday season with your friends, family, and… significant other? I haven’t introduced my boy Kyle yet, but I’m sure ya’ll will get to hear from him soon if I can rope him into an outfit post. (the boy has style!) I love the colder weather and the holidays so much, but it does put a damper on a lot of fun dates. No more picnics, spontaneous beach trips, or ice cream outings were in our future for a while, so we had to be a little more creative. Our cheesy but hilariously fun idea? Buy some amazing fabric from Joannes and make matching lounge pants to wear through the winter months. We went fabric shopping together and found the coolest flannel with polar bears riding snow mobiles and skiing, and then bought a cheap pajama pant pattern to make life easy. Our bonus idea? Make the pockets fur lined for a more luxurious experience. After one day of sewing and a fitting we were done. We also decided to style a little photo shoot with our new pants to make a cute christmas card!

FinalChristmascardWe have so many plans for these pants! Holiday movie marathon, baking cookies, star gazing, and lots of cuddling!

What do you think, would you guys ever wear matching lounge pants or is it too cheesy for you? Do you have any other holiday date ideas for us?!

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Date Ideas for December?

Travel Tuesday: Peru!

Today we wanted to journey to Peru, it’s been on both of our bucket lists for such a while. There’s interesting and beautiful scenery there, as well as a rich history of textiles and weaving.

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When I think of Peru I think of bright colored textiles and patterns. Since I don’t usually like patterns, I picked pieces, that were solid but contained patterns through their textures and weaves. It’s all about chunkiness and layering!

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For this trip, I’m drawing inspiration from Peruvian textile traditions (you might have picked up on the fact that we are kind of textile nerds by now I think.) I LOVE pattern and you can bet you would find some in my suitcase. To keep the looks clean though, I would pair pattern heavy pieces with modern shapes that have a bit of that lady-archaeologist flair.

 

What do you think of our choices? And what would you wear on this trip?  Let us know in the comments!

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Travel Tuesday: Peru!

Makeup Monday: A softer smoky eye

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 I did this smokey eye look for my best friend Maggie over the weekend. She wanted a smokey eye, but with her fair features and beautiful blue eyes I didn’t want to overwhelm her coloring with too much black. The solution? A smokey eye with warm shades of caramel, rose gold, and deep reddish brown that are dramatic but don’t compete with her natural beauty. The reddish brown made her blue eyes look even more vibrant! See the below images for some step by step instructions.

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1. Cover the lid with primer. I use one made by e.l.f. cosmetics.

2. Sweep your darkest brown shade in a thick line along the lash line. 

3. Using a golden brown, blend the dark brown line into the crease of the eye, getting rid of any harsh edges between the two colors. 

4. Fill in the outer 1/3 of the crease with a deep reddish brown shade. 

5. Sweep the same reddish brown along the outer bottom lash line, and a gold along the tear duct and inner bottom lash line. 

6. Smudge a dark brown liner into the upper lash line and water line before adding mascara. 

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Here she is enjoying the beautiful scenery from our weekend lake retreat! What do you think, would you try this look? Let me know!

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Makeup Monday: A softer smoky eye

Theme Thursday: Born to Be Wild

 Hey guys! Laura and I both are in possession of these awesome animal shirts so we decided it was time to do a themed animal post. It was such a fun little thing for us to do, and it shows the crazy differences in our east coast/west coast style. I think all of our friends and family thought we were crazed for buying these shirts, but honestly I wear mine all the time. It makes me smile and also makes me feel just a little too cool for school. 

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So what do you think of the animal trend, too wild for you? And what is your favorite animal?!

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Theme Thursday: Born to Be Wild

Travel Time: Scotland for the Holidays

Hi everybody!  Sorry, we have been a bit MIA for the past few days for a long holiday weekend.  Ours was great and we hope yours was lovely as well!  I flew to North Carolina for some family time (my sister turned seventeen on Sunday!) and also got a chance to catch up with some of my best friends from the east coast.  Becka spent some time with her crazy and glam grandmother Omi- who I’m sure will show up on the blog at some point or another- and hosted a dinner party with her boyfriend Kyle.

So it’s Wednesday and that means its time to pack up for a trip around the world! This time we thought we might figure out what to bring along if we were, say, invited on a cozy family getaway to our boyfriend’s Scottish castle.  Like perhaps this one?

Eilean-Donan-CastleOk, so thats Eilean Donan Castle and it’s pretty famous and maybe not open to weekend guests.  But we like to dream big. See our takes below and tell us what you think in the comments!

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For me, I think this weekend would be all about rich colors and ladylike shapes, amped up with a bit of modern flare.  Sweaters and other layering friendly pieces would be a must (castles are drafty you guys!) but above all I’d like to feel sleek, pulled together, confident- and cozy.
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Staying in a castle makes me want to be dark and dramatic. Think tortured princess locked away in a tower with only time to sew fabulous, hate-filled dresses. (side note-this should probably be a movie.) I’m thinking a thick plaited braid like below, some dramatic leather gloves, and a never-ending supply of deteriorating wool sweaters and lace infused gowns. 

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Would you wear any of these to a Scottish Castle? And more importantly what gown would you wear? Let us know!

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Travel Time: Scotland for the Holidays

Power Browing

Hey friends! This past week was finally the start of thanksgiving break, also known as the time Laura came back to Raleigh! We had only been counting down for about 5 months, no big deal. 

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Not only could I not wait to see her and hang out, but I was also super excited to fix her brows. I know this sounds so incredibly weird, but I’ve been grooming them for her for about three years and without being close by to shape them up I’ve been watching them get progressively more rowdy over FaceTime sessions. Laura has the kind of strong, defined brows that would make any girl jealous, but sometimes I just have to go in and trim a little here and there to create a more polished look. Take a look at these before and after pictures and some little brow tips!

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  • Always brush your brow hairs up with a clear gel before plucking so you can get a better idea of your natural shape. 
  • Trim any long hairs. This is the key to looking groomed. Even if you don’t pluck them often, just keeping them trimmed will give a more polished look. 
  • Pluck from below completely before touching the top of the eyebrows. I’m serious about this one… bad things happen when plucking from the top first. 
  • If you want a more defined look, use some eyebrow gel or even a little eye shadow powder in your brow color to fill in any sparse spots (usually right around the highest point of the arch.) 

Let me know what you do to your eyebrows, and I’ll have a more in-depth photo of the brow process soon! Also, sorry for the quality of these photos, we were so excited we both forgot our proper cameras!

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Power Browing

Trend Alert: Golden Tattoos

Hi friends, today I thought I would share my new obsession with golden tattoos! Laura and I have been discussing getting tattoos for a quite some time. We’re almost ready to make the leap, but in the meantime we’ve been obsessively following the golden tattoo trend thats been sweeping the street style blogs. Lasting 4-6 days after their application, they are so lovely and etherial. They give that instant cool factor to any boho outfit.  Yesterday I finally made the leap and bought some samples! I can’t wait to try them out, but in the meantime I’ve included some great inspiration pictures of the trend in action. 

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I impulse bought mine at Francesca’s, but they are also all over the internet if you want to search for the perfect ones! What do you think, would you ever wear them?

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Trend Alert: Golden Tattoos